There ain't no such thing as a happy divorce
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Yep, we've got several single parent families in my wife's daycare- I can guarantee you that the only people who *might* be happy with a divorce are the parents. The kids never are.
Yep, we've got several single parent families in my wife's daycare- I can guarantee you that the only people who *might* be happy with a divorce are the parents. The kids never are.
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You Easterners are all alike. NO sense of duty or honor.
Far from it. My brother would get a kick out of that statement. She gets more attention than her older siblings ever got.
And it has nothing to do with me being part of yet another group, Easterners, against which you have formed one of your petty prejudices. No one east of the Mississippi has any sense of honor or duty in Ted's world.
I consider anybody who gets a divorce to have made a worse mistake than murder.
Right. These are things you can't post anywhere else. Now I get it.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/d-a-wolf/death-or-divorce-which-is_b_1101346.html
http://heshistory.com/2008/04/whats-worse-divorce-or-death/
You actually say that to people?
Divorce is an evil that must be combated. It has led to the destruction of our society.
The argument that killing a person is better than putting them through a crappy situation is the same argument that people try to use to justify having an abortion. It's thereby not valid for the exact same reason.
Divorce isn't good, no, on the other hand, it offers a legal escape route for people who otherwise would be killed, or beaten, neglected, and have worse psychological damage done to them over the course of their life than what comes of a divorce. Want to know how I know? My late grandmother went through two. Both of these divorces ended in an annulment. The first because of a neglect of information on both sides, the second because her husband abused her, my father, and my aunts and uncle. The person she did marry in the end is one of the best examples of a husband I have ever found.
The problem with divorce is that people often do it for the wrong reason. Instead of treating it like the last and most desperate solution, they use it as their go-to solution, instead of working together to look at the issues that are in their marriage, and then compromising and trying to fix it, first.
That being said, there are cases where the choice to divorce is made because no other option will provide any children involved a better environment, such as was the case with my dad's family, as well as many other families.
I'd go even further, and say that another part of the reason so many problems in marriage today is because some people who should get divorced, don't, and it has such a harsh psychological impact on the children that they cannot have a successful marriage themselves, resulting in a continuous cycle which can be broken by a divorce, and giving the children a chance to grow up in a more stable environment.
To say that you're Catholic, yet profess to believe something that is so much in opposition of the Church's teaching is simply to call a pile of crap a rose, and expect people to believe it'll smell the same (or in this case,subscribe to heretical beliefs under the name of a faithful Catholic).
A priest put it to me this way- IF a marriage is true as the Church describes it, there is a spiritual third person that is the blending of the souls and flesh of the two become one. Divorce kills that third person- divorce is a form of murder. But the two who had previously been one are still alive- and still have to deal with each other, for the rest of their lives.
Oddly, though, you're right, this isn't church teaching: It is liberal secular philosophy, as the church has no real experience with divorce.
Also, simply because you talked to a priest about it, doesn't mean that you, or he, happens to be right. Priests aren't infallible in matters of official Church teaching, unless that priest happens to be the pope, and he's stating that it's official Church teaching.