I finally figured out why I have a visceral reaction to the German/Maltese/Argentinian formulation of Amoris Laetitia Chapter 8, and it has nothing to do with the Sacraments.
It has to do with the Culture of Rape, and precisely, the role Rape plays in some civil marriages.
"Continence is impossible" says Cardinal Francesco Coccopalmerio in his book on Amoris Laetitia.
Those of us in Oregon long ago made Marital Rape illegal. And if you have his hypothetical example, a woman who desires to be chaste and a man who refuses to be chaste, that is the classical case of marital rape.
The church should not be condoning this sin. Ever.
Not all can reach the ideal, but that does not mean we should stop teaching the ideal.